二、家庭禮儀與酒

(一)以酒接風(fēng)洗塵

在人際交往中，酒也是表達(dá)感情不可或缺的用品。如客人來(lái)訪，以酒待客、勸客飲酒是自古至今的習(xí)俗，客人來(lái)了，主人殷勤勸客飲酒歷來(lái)就被視為表達(dá)情意的重要形式。如：

◆ 鳳姐聽了，忙命兩個(gè)媳婦坐車在那邊接了來(lái)。心中一刺未除，又平空添一刺，說不得且吞聲忍氣，將好顏面換出來(lái)遮掩。一面又命擺酒接風(fēng)，一面帶了秋桐來(lái)見賈母與王夫人等。(曹雪芹《紅樓夢(mèng)》第六十九回)

Xifeng immediately sent two serving-women to fetch Qiutong by carriage．Before she had rid herself of one thorn in her side，here，—out of the blue—was another!However，she had to watch her tongue and hide her anger by a show of complaisance，ordering a feast of welcome，then taking Qiutong to present her to the Lady Dowager and Lady Wang．(楊憲益、戴乃迭譯)

(二)以酒送別餞行

人際交往中以酒達(dá)意的習(xí)俗還有送別餞行。古人餞行或搭帳篷于郊外，或設(shè)別宴于家里、長(zhǎng)亭、短亭、旅舍、酒肆，借酒抒發(fā)離情別緒。如：

◆ 展眼已到十月，因有各鋪面伙計(jì)內(nèi)有算年帳要回家的，少不得家內(nèi)治酒餞行。(曹雪芹《紅樓夢(mèng)》第四十八回)

In no time the tenth month arrived，and as some of their shop managers were to get home to settle their annual accounts，the Xue family had to prepare a farewell feast for them．(楊憲益、戴乃迭譯)再如：

◆ 賈政最循規(guī)矩，在倫理上也講究的，執(zhí)手分別后，自己先騎馬趕至城外舉酒送行，又叮嚀了好些國(guó)家軫恤勛臣，力圖報(bào)稱的話。(曹雪芹《紅樓夢(mèng)》第一百零七回)

Jia Zheng，a model of propriety with a strong sense of moral obligation，clasped his brother's hand in farewell then rode ahead out of the city to offer them wine at the Pavilion of Parting and wish them a good journey．He reminded them of the government's concern for meritorious minister，and exhorted to work hard to repay this compassion．(楊憲益、戴乃迭譯)